This year, I want to put extra focus on growing inwards and on a deeper level. I’ve been wondering how to become the best version of myself. I think throughout my life, as I experience things and absorb the world, I’ve met many versions of “me”. Some that I’m more proud of than others. But I want to know how to reach the best possible version ever, and what she is like.
I’ve slowly come to discover that the person I want to be doesn’t exist yet. And she will never exist until I actually make it happen and become “her”. The beauty in it all is that it’s entirely up to me, here and now, to choose my attributes.
So how do we become the change? Yes, it all starts with our mind. Continue reading
You know what makes someone interesting, or even attractive? It’s when they’re very good at something.
This post is actually inspired by the “Find your Magic” Axe commercial. You know, the one where every guy has their own kind of sexy, and it goes: who needs a 6-pack when you’ve got the nose, or a nose when you’ve got the suit, or the moves, etc.? And I loved it when it says “who needs some other thing, when you’ve got your thing?” Continue reading
A few months ago, I was following a link online that was raising money for childhood cancers. In the description, millions of dollars were already raised in a matter of weeks, surpassing the end goal by far. I had a moment of hesitation, whether or not I should donate. They already raised more than they had set out to raise. And what contribution would my $20, or even $100, be in the mist of the multi-million dollar sum? Continue reading
Today is hump day (Wednesday). It’s one of those days that don’t exactly excite anyone, but it’s the “after hump day” that everyone looks forward to. Why? Because we passed the middle of the week. We managed to trudge up that glorious hill that is Monday and Tuesday, and on the other side is a direct downhill roll to Friday. Alas, the weekend! Continue reading
I have a very big fear of embarrassment, rejection and failure. I hate losing and making a fool out of myself. Worst of all, I am extremely weary of what people may think of me. But I’m starting to see that we learn and grow not in succeeding or failing, but in the course of going through a process.
Too often I get intimated by the idea of losing and of coming up short, and I think a lot of people feel this way too because that’s what the focus is on. That’s what everybody notices and talks about. Success has become a primary motivating factor and failing has become a solid reason for not trying. I mean, if you knew you were going to fail before indulging in something, why even bother in the first place?
In a world of competition and opportunities, too often we shy away from the battle. I think this is one of my biggest set-backs as a person trying to advance myself. I’ve gotten into the mentality that if I were to compete as an underdog, I might as well not compete at all. But being the losing underdog who puts up a good fight and takes the beating, is far more respectable than one who backs out and never tries. Continue reading
Keeping to the topic of emotions, anger is a perfectly normal feeling, yet it’s arguably the most important to manage. Anger has a very strong ripple effect which escalates quickly and subsides slowly. Contrary to sadness, which can be deeply hidden for a long time, anger is a very difficult emotion to contain within. Once faced with it, we have an immediate desire to make it known by directing this energy at something or someone. It is highly contagious and destructive not only to our mind, soul and intellect, but it can easily jeopardize our relationship with others. Our temperament is largely due to our given personalities, beyond our control, but the good news is that we are not made of stone. Our brains have a fascinating ability to adapt and mature through repetition and practice. In other words, we can train ourselves to boost our tolerance and adopt a more laid back character. I am not immune to feeling agitated myself, but here are some ways I use to keep myself more composed. Continue reading
“The most dangerous risk of all — the risk of spending your life not doing what you want, on the bet that you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar
Time and money. Those definitely fall into a category of their own. No matter what, there’s always somehow a lack of time and money to do what we want. But maybe that isn’t the biggest problem. We have a funny perception of time and money. We convince ourselves that some time in the future well beyond our sight, we will be richer and better off. By that time, we can surely afford to buy time to finally get to do the things we choose to push off now. We might be right, but boy, that’s a huge bet we make. So we postpone and wait, and later becomes even later. Continue reading
In celebration of the upcoming International Women’s Day on March 8th, Youtube launched a campaign called #DearMe to encourage young girls to pursue their dreams. Dear Me is a letter to your teenage self. If you could go back in time, what advice and wisdom would you share with yourself? Reflection time is my favourite time and I think this is an inspiring exercise! People always say to let the past stay in the past, and to look forward to shaping your future. But I often look back at my past. Not to dwell on it, but to see how far I’ve come. It’s a funny thing how sometimes in life, you don’t know why you do something until after you’ve done it, and you don’t see the path you’ve taken until after you’ve walked through it. You can only know how much wisdom you’ve gain after you take a look back at all your glorious victories. Continue reading
For those who don’t know, I am back into a full course load. Even though I haven’t ever stopped being a full-time student, the 2 years MSc. experience was really more like a job than actually taking courses. Well, now that I’m back in full swing, let me tell you, it feels a little weird, but at the same time, very refreshing and enlightening. But, as we’ve all gone through it, when exams are around the corner, we all wish we could just fast forward and get it over with. Needless to say, it’s nearing the end of November and I’m finding myself in that deja vu again. The stress that comes with work-overload is inevitable. I’ve been doing nothing else than school work this whole month! Getting projects done, assignments done, trying to keep up with classes, editing my thesis on the side… etc etc. So writing this blog right now is actually quite therapeutic to me, and a way for me to get motivated for the final stretch. Continue reading
I admit it. I do not have much experience in the work force, but from the little amount of time I was employed, and from my parents, I gathered some work ethics that could make you a more respectable person. Of course, I am in the process of learning them too, because work is work and nobody likes to work… So here are some tips:
1. Take responsibility:
Do your task, but do it well. Treat it like something important and put effort into it. Be thorough, be reliable, and be punctual with your deadlines. This is where you build up the trust people have for you.
2. Be honest:
Everyone makes mistakes and there are misunderstandings. That’s human nature. When it happens and you’re at fault, don’t try to hide it. It is very tempting to make up a lie and cover it, but bullcrap is very apparent to others. Not to mention that it’s cowardice. If you come clean and admit your faults and explain the situation, most often than not, people are forgiving and they will help you find solutions. Continue reading